Amber Amour is a New York activist who’s mission is to educate everyone about rape culture. To make a change, you have to BE the change, so she started her @creatingconsentculture campaign, FKA: Stop Rape. Educate., which seeks to work toward solutions to rape culture instead of just talking about it. This young lady has been traveling the world, educating men and women about rape culture after police offered no justice in her second experience with being raped back in 2014. She was questioned by 8 male policemen who didn’t even want to believe her story!
Amour says that she knew that she wouldn’t get justice unless she took the matter into her own hands, so she, “started doing chalk art – writing messages about rape culture and respecting women – all over the streets of NYC.” Her new support group was in accord with her desire to eliminate “the shame that surrounds sexual assault.”
Amour’s following began to grow exponentially to the point where 5,000 of her supporters (at the time) begged her to travel the globe to share her story. Eventually, she planned her Stop Rape. Educate. campaign and had planned to travel to Australia, South Africa, England, Los Angeles and Las Vegas, but things to an unfortunate turn.
The now 27-year old activist was raped during the Cape Town leg of her tour. Here is her account of what happened:
“It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it’s hard to remember all the details…. I’ve been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick. There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said “stop!” but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that’s when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape…shame, disgust, suffering. I’m here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I’m going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate”
Unfortunately, our society makes it okay to question the ordeals of rape victims, even though it’s easy than ever to prove that things may or may not have happened with the help of science. However, due to feelings of shame, disgust, mistrust and worthlessness, some men and women may find it too difficult to come out about their rape incidents in fear of someone not believing them! Do you see how this only perpetuates rape culture? More people like Amber are needed, because she is working to end this trend! Instead, she’s working toward creating a Culture of Consent, rather than only telling people why rape culture is bad.
Roommates, if you’d like to read Amber’s full story, check out her page http://www.marieclaire.co.uk.
TSR Intern: Talia O. @theclosetratchet on Instagram & @tallyohhh on Twitter!
Source Cited: http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/551474/ambertheactivist-instagram-rape.html