Last month, the cast of #RoommateTalkAtlanta sat down together to answer a few questions about sex and relationships. One Roommate, in particular, had the cast clutching their pearls after she asked what she should do about being in a non-titled relationship for 5 years! The unanimous decision was that she should leave, because being in a situationship is not cute and is certainly a waste of time. I mean, for some people, titles don’t matter and that’s cool, but this person definitely sounds like they want something more and will not be getting it anytime soon.
That got us thinking, though. We’ve all been in relationships or situationships that were hard to walk away from, right? For example, when I was 18, I found myself in love with someone who didn’t love me back and it hurt! I stayed with this person for 9 months and even let them use me out of fear that I would never experience love again, but I am here to tell you that this just isn’t true! I picked up the pieces and fell in love with myself, because eventually I learned that if I had loved myself enough back then, then I would never have allowed myself to go through that. How many of you have been through this?
Another common relationship that people put themselves in is one where they think they can change the other person, even if it’s for their benefit! When I was 19, I dated someone with an addiction. I tried my hardest to help them get sober, but it would never work for more than 3 days. One day, I realized that it was not my job to fix a grown man and that I simply couldn’t, because he didn’t want to change.
Many people can apply this to their relationships today. A lot of us will identify bae’s flaws and try to force them to make the changes that they already know they need to make. Oftentimes, this leaves us drained, because who’s pouring all that energy back into us? Not bae! They don’t even want to help themselves, so it’s usually best to walk away.
It’s not necessarily as hard to love as it is to stay in love. People make things way too hard by not paying attention to the signs. Roommates, have any of you ever been in one of these relationships? What did you do to get out of them and how has that decision impacted your dating life?
